Turns out, Greg Koukl of the apologetics ministry Stand To Reason (click here) agrees with me. In an article on his website he writes:
I would say that the parallel between you and God is precise. You do know that your child is going to do some things wrong. The only difference between you and God in this case is that God knows the particular things that every one of His children is going to do wrong. You don't know the particulars, but you know it's inevitable. If it is true that God is morally responsible for what His children do because He knows in advance, then it is also true that you're morally responsible. But if it's true that you're not morally responsible because you know in advance, then it's also true that God is not responsible. That's why I argue that neither is morally responsible because the wild card, in a sense, in this discussion is free moral agency.The rest of the article is here (click here). Koukl actually takes what seems to be a Calvinistic stance on soteriology, which I disagree with, but the part I have posted is very helpful. I know Hays won't agree with Koukl on everything and will probably write a ten page essay on why he's right and everyone else is wrong, but hopefully it's insightful for the rest of us.
Human beings are not mechanistic. If you take a long stick and poke somebody in the eye with that long stick, that stick is not at fault. It is merely responding in a mechanistic way to your will. That's why the person that initiates the action with the stick is the one that is culpable, the person to blame. But if what's standing in your way is not a mechanism, but another human being that has free moral agency, that removes your culpable role in the process because you are not causing somebody to do something else. You merely give birth to somebody else who then makes choices for themselves. Because men can make choices, good choices and bad choices, they are moral agents in themselves and it's not appropriate to look back on you as the parent or God as the creator as the one who is morally responsible. That's true because men are not mechanistic, they are moral agents.